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常听说有些家长,在孩子夜间做功课时跟在身旁监督,弄得苦不堪言。我虽不是辅导做家庭作业的专家,但可以帮助你摆脱困境。依靠这十种方法,可以使孩子的独立性得到十倍的增强。

1.中学以下阶段,孩子分数还并不特别重要时,应养成他们“自己的功课,自己做”的习惯,使之将来不至于过分依赖父母。有一点,提请父母注意:培养孩子的责任心,比每次都给出他们题目的正确答案更重要。

2. 如果作业繁多,孩子心情焦虑,你得教会孩子沉着冷静,遇事不慌,认真解决每道问题。这是教会孩子如何处理好时间,应付压力的绝佳时机。

3.善于寻找和使用资源。举个例子来说吧,我儿子在学习两位数减法时,怎么也理解不了,这个阶段的孩子,我不主张他们使用“减掉”这样的词语来教孩子。于是我到网上查找有关数学课本的网站。我终于找到了一本动画版的教程,所采用的方法相得益彰;我和孩子通过对减法分段部分一遍一遍地演示,(我!)和他也终于把这整个过程给搞明白了。

4.同学朋友的帮助强于父母。孩子与孩子之间的沟通,要远远强于他们的长辈。尤其是当他们坐在同一个教室,学着相同内容的东西时,他们之间的沟通,是大人们无法做到的。我的孩子上中学的时候,我就鼓励他采用的这种行为,在有教师监督的情况下,鼓励孩子互帮互学。当然并不是每个孩子都能帮得上别人的忙,但就他们对所学习知识的真正了解,父母是无法同他们相比的。

5. 鼓励孩子去找自己的老师。有些老师会拿出专门的时间来辅导学习,这些时间可能是学前或是学后,或是老师独立工作的时间。

6.分清楚哪些是孩子需要额外的指导,哪门学科需要得到帮助,不要眉毛胡子一把抓。年纪小的孩子可能会对采用何种学习方法,对他们适用还不是十分清楚,此时,你应该给予他们帮助,帮助他们搞清楚,新学科应采用哪些不同的方法。一旦他们养成了能独立解决至少一门功能学习能力之后,他们很有可能会举一反三,在其它学科的学习中触类旁通。

7.学会项目管理。做家庭作业时,遇到的最大问题就是项目管理,尤其是在孩子读小学的时候。有些班级,老师会把项目分成能管理,可实施,能理解的步骤来进行。这些方法都可以有效地帮助孩子项目的计划管理(步骤及任务时限!),对此我很感激。但是,一旦孩子对项目计划的任务还不清楚,这时孩子就需要得到你的帮助。

8.允许孩子的作业出现错误。即使你发现(或你认为你发现)孩子的作业有问题,你也不要更正。如果孩子交上去的作业,每次都是对的,那么老师很可能就会认为,你的孩子不必要另行辅导,学习(也许都全班的学生)可以继续向前,学习新的概念;如果整个班都在往前学(而你的孩子以前的东西还没弄懂),那么你对孩子的辅导,很可能永远也辅导不完。

9.对孩子做作业时所需要的资料,应为他们提供寻找的方法并帮他们把关。例如,孩子要写一篇有关欧洲当今时事方面的文章时,我会指导他们去寻找BBC的相关报道,而不会让孩子去参考地方小报上的国际版。

10.提供错误的答案。这种方法是我大儿子读三年级学习几何的时候,我在无意中发现的,也许对你会很有启发。我的空间思维能力在某些方面存在着问题,所以在帮助孩子解决问题时,根本起不了作用。有幸的是,孩子求助了教师,从而找到了像我这样的父母无法为他们找到的,正确的解题方法

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I have heard that some parents spend many school nights supervising and struggling with their children's homework. I am a lousy homework helper so I have found some ways to get my kids to stop bugging me. Here are 10 tips to get your kids to do as much for themselves as possible.

1. Start now with the it's-your-homework-not-mine stance when (hopefully) the stakes are low, rather than in high school when grades start to matter. Remind yourself that having your child take responsibility is much more important than getting the answers right every time.

2. If the work seems overwhelming and your child is anxious, show your child how to calm down and tackle each assignment. This is a good opportunity to teach time and stress management.

3. Find and use resources. For example, when my son was having difficulty understanding double-digit subtraction and parents were instructed not to use the term "take-away" as I was taught at his age, I went to the math book's website. There I found an animation that explained the proper methods and terminology; my son and I watched the subtraction segment over and over until he (and I!) finally understood the process.

4. Let your child ask a friend for help. Kids tend to relate to each other better than adults, especially when they have been sitting in the same classroom or learning the same material. My child's middle school encouraged this behavior and set up teacher-supervised, kid-to-kid tutoring sessions. Not all friends will be able to help but those who truly understand the material will probably be better helpers than parents.

5. Encourage your child to ask the teacher for help. Some teachers have time set aside to give extra help to students, either right before or after school, or during times dedicated to independent work.

6. Figure out where your child needs extra guidance and give assistance for certain subjects, but not all classes. Younger kids may not have learned what approaches work for them, so they may need some help in figuring out how to tackle a new subject. If they can develop independence in at least one area of homework, they are more likely to learn how to do homework in other areas.

7. Teach project management. One of the biggest areas of homework frustration at my house, especially in the elementary school years, was the project. In some classes, teachers actually broke down projects into manageable, doable, understandable steps. This approach taught project management (there were steps and timelines with due dates!) for which I am most grateful. But if the assignment isn't that clear, you may need to help with project planning.

8. Let your child make mistakes. Even if you see (or think you see) an error, don't correct the homework. If your child consistently hands in perfect homework, the teacher may make the reasonable assumption that your child doesn't need help and that the student (and possibly the entire class) can move forward with new concepts; if the class does move forward (and your child doesn't grasp earlier concepts), you'll likely get stuck with perpetual homework helping.

9. Show your child how to find and evaluate resources needed for assignments. For example, when my kids needed to write on current events in Europe, I pointed them to BBC rather than the international section of our local newspaper.

10. Get the answer wrong. I stumbled upon this approach when my oldest son was taking Geometry in third grade, and it's perhaps my best advice. I have some sort of visual-spatial deficit so my assistance with this particular subject was useless. Fortunately, he then turned to his teacher, who taught him strategies that helped him to overcome any geometry-related deficiencies that he may have inherited.

I should confess that I have helped with my kids' homework. Last year, I found appropriate print articles for my son's current events; and, a few years back, I suggested a book on Mikhail Gorbachev for a biography project (see post photo for a reason why moms don't need to select props — with my deepest apologies to Mr. Gorbachev).

Still, I hope that these ideas will help some parents to take a step (or two or more) away from homework and have a moment to relax.
by 山茱萸 | 来自 ParentingSquad | 夜晚 2010/03/16 18:47 | 分类: 文摘 DIGEST | 锁定(0) | 引用(0) | 阅读(1790)